Torch & Soul

Are You Triggered
Or Are They Actually Inconsistent?

You're not crazy. But you can't tell what's yours and what's theirs — and that confusion is keeping you stuck. This free diagnostic separates the two in under 5 minutes.

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I want to tell you something I wish someone had told me when I was deep in a hot and cold dynamic, replaying conversations at 2am trying to figure out if I was overreacting.

The confusion you feel is not weakness. It's what happens when nobody gives you a framework to separate what's yours from what's theirs.

I've been through narcissistic relationships that were masters at making me question my own perception. I've stayed in dynamics I should have left because I kept blaming my anxiety instead of looking at the actual pattern. I've also triggered in stable relationships and almost destroyed something good.

Both cost me. And both were preventable with the right tool.

That tool is exactly what this free diagnostic gives you.

"You don't have a perception problem. You have a framework problem. Once you can separate what's yours from what's theirs — everything becomes clear."— MELISSA, TORCH & SOUL

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This Diagnostic Is For You If Any of This Sounds Familiar

  • You feel confused more days than you feel secure in this dynamic
  • You replay conversations trying to figure out what you said wrong
  • You can't tell if you're overreacting or responding to something real
  • You notice hot-cold cycles — intensity followed by distance
  • You question your own perception constantly
  • You want to know the truth before you confront, invest more, or walk away
  • You're exhausted from not knowing what to trust — yourself or the pattern

You don't have a perception problem.
You have a framework problem. This is your framework.

What's Inside Your Free Diagnostic

Section A — Their Pattern

10 behavioral statements that identify whether their behavior is genuinely inconsistent — scored objectively.

Section B — Your Triggers

10 internal markers that identify whether your nervous system is reacting bigger than the evidence in front of you.

Your Result Category

Inconsistency Dominant, Trigger Dominant, or Mixed — with a clear action plan for each result.

3 Scripts

The Clarity Ask, The Boundary, and The Detach — written out exactly, ready to use.